I have a good friend who hates immigrants – especially from his personal country of birth in Asian continent.
He himself is often a first generation immigrant, mature in their profession and contains done very well as a professional. You would think he of the people would value the contributions of the immigrants, and much more so from his country of birth since they too did well–and came here legally. Some might have gamed the computer by coming here as students and got employer sponsorships, but everything done legally.
However my buddy has a problem understanding why most immigrants love the US a lot more than the country of these birty. I think he sees America since the land in the grabbing, reaching, grasping mercenaries and as a consequence has created a false barrier which stops him from embracing the American culture, enough where he dislikes anyone who embraces it. It does not help that they also experienced a bad marriage. I have not probed him regarding the issues in accordance with his marriage but few pieces in discussing it lead me to trust he was without an effictive lawyer along with the outcome was, his wife cleaned his clock.
While my (distant) friend’s attitude might be defined as extreme this is usually a recurring, albeit uncommon theme among first-generation immigrants in the US. But so many from the immigrants, even all those who have been studying, living and earning a paycheck here for decades, manage to live in a cultural cocoon.
Unfortunately and tragically, this cultural divide has in rare cases generated violence and terrorism, perpetrated by seemingly ‘normal’ first generation immigrants.
The what are known as ‘ethnicity’ can occasionally keep us from locating the best of both cultures, our immigrant culture along with the American culture. How do we bridge the divide?
Here are a handful of practical tips.
- Make a resolve for spend some time to find out about American culture–its history, practices, angularities and inhibitions. See if you can find similarities within your culture—believe me, there are lots of similarities it doesn’t matter what your ancestry is.
- Never let anyone denigrate your culture.
A person from southern Europe told me—“In our culture we revere older people. You Americans don’t. The moment their demands born of ageing commence to impede upon yourself, you place them in a care home.”
I told him while I admired his pride as part of his culture, his generalization of any culture depending on some observed incidental behavior was wrong. I then talked about how the Government as well as the private citizens were spending so much time to care for senior, the disabled plus the veterans who was simply hurt.
- Let language become a uniter, not just a divider. Be curious how other languages express emotions, places, the way they name their babies, etc. Genuine curiosity is good and breeds respect.
- Freely acknowledge that almost all immigrants contribute, usually do not take away resources. It is often a fact, look this.
You could possibly have valid points against practices of other culture (as an example radical religious beliefs practiced by followers of just one well known religion which tramples upon other religions and girls are abhorrent and possess kept its practitioners in poverty and decadence for thousands of years. But you is certain to get nowhere criticizing it–the awareness must are derived from within that religion.
- Celebrate important dates and events in other cultures having its followers.
In short, the best way forward I can provide you with to bridge the divide of culture is—CROSS THE DIVIDE. Humans everywhere have certain common values and attributes—good food, fascination with family, decency and naturally money worries–capitalize on these.